A doctor can also check his testosterone levels, which play a significant role in sexual function and interest and often drop as men age. What if you've fallen into a pattern where your partner is pressuring you for more sex or you're feeling unsatisfied with a lower amount of sex than you'd like? He pursues you, and tries to arouse you, and then you respond. But beyond that, just a little variety can spice things up. Just like the bear - once you wake up and begin to feed yourself - you can find that your hunger is extraordinary. Even if this doesn't apply to you, it may not be a bad idea either. What does that mean for us? How about "The more you get - the more you want? Jump in and initiate sex! I don't think that Gena is alone. I love to talk about us "waking up your sleeping beauty! Contrary to the conventional model, for many women, desire is not the cause of lovemaking, but rather, its result. But to start to kiss him when he wants to make love, and to start to let your hands wander, and to respond to his hands wandering, is not faking. I acknowledge and feed my desire in different ways. Following discussion groups, reading, watching videos, having more experiences, experimenting with Zestra and other ways of exploring my own sexuality for myself. The good news is that if we continue to feed ourselves our lives can become more balanced and we can kind up in a much better place.