The rectum is not self-lubricating like the vagina and penis, so artificial lube is absolutely necessary. Use the controls on the base of the toy or use the handy remote alone or with a partner to take your plug play to the next level. Your finger should also be curved toward the front of the body. The pointed tip and slim neck make it more comfortable to wear, and its asymmetrical taper is specifically designed to put pressure against the prostate or G-spot. For removal, find out what your partner wants. Agree to a word and if it's said, then all activity has to pause. Then feel free to insert it more and explore by circling your finger, tapping and rubbing the walls of the rectum. It's simply not true. This is an ideal toy for those looking to have a plug that can also be moved in and out, making it a great warm-up toy for anal sex as well. But not all butt plugs are created equal. Friction can cause bruising and irritation that is very unpleasant. Finding a good position, is really a very personal thing. There are two rings of muscle at the anal opening called the sphincter, and while you can consciously control the outer layer of the sphincter, the inner ring does not relax at your will. There's nothing wrong with telling your partner, "Wait, I'm not relaxed enough yet. Don't automatically thrust your finger in and out. Courtesy of Spectrum Boutique. After you pause a moment, you may want to try wiggling it around a little too.