Other variables like race, class and gender identity will also factor in to the power balance of your relationship. If you are looking for a man who pulls out chairs and holds doors open for you, your best bet is an older guy. The idea that it's normal and natural for men to date women five, 10, 15 or even 20 years younger than them is pretty firmly culturally ingrained at this point. Try an older man, you will never go back. But our views on relationships and attraction tend to morph. However, it's worth taking a second look at whether this phenomenon should continue to be taken for granted. If that scares you, you might not be ready for a relationship at all, let alone one with a younger woman. It's still worth considering the "stage of life" problem, though. I would suggest visiting these places regularly and see for yourself, but I would also suggest that you get the idea out of your head that you need to go somewhere specifically to meet women who are looking for older men! As a woman becomes more confident in her career aspirations, she looks for a partner who will match her aspirations which, more often than not, is not her age mate, a year-old hustling guy. Only a creature with really powerful genes can do that and therefore attract females who are, in general, the ones who choose partners while males wait to be selected. He now works as a personal trainer, and the couple lives in Portland, Ore. She may think that guys her own age are immature and directionless, and be looking for an older guy to provide more stability for her. Such displays, in the elderly, are unconsciously reassuring to women. However, maybe you've met a woman you really vibe with, and she's younger but not too young, and you've talked about everything — your expectations, where you are in life, your goals for the next few years, etc — and you're aligned. They are in their prime and can have sex as much as they want. An older man has generally been through more ups and downs in his life and therefore acts more mature than his younger counterparts.