Good for them I say, whatever literally turns them on. In her book, "Girls and Sex," writer Peggy Orenstein finds that young women are focusing on their partner's pleasure, not their own. I avoid taking both of them into situations where I might not be able to control them, which is basically anywhere crowded. George, the more verbal of the two, has often been asked about a future career. Read more from Alice at More than Toast. Your son needs to know the correct names for his external anatomy, that sperm live in seminal fluid, and that urine and sperm and seminal fluid all come out through the same part of the penis. Is it one talk, or many? Acceptable age of first sex. Do you have any gender specific concerns for her as she gets older? Having said that, the way I talk about pleasure to an 8-year-old is VERY different than how I would talk about it with a year-old. You are likely experiencing sensations in response to me. And then there is the issue of sex. Or what you want to say to your 7-year-old son who calls himself a boy but also wants to wear nail polish to school. Yes, there may be some embarrassment, funny noises, and odd smells, but the experience should be more positive than negative. He swallows drinks in one gulp, covers page after page at high speed with barely recognisable drawings of birthday cakes and ironing boards. Charlotte wants the same for all three sons, she wants them to lead active, healthy lives Take the book group I belong to; eight middle-aged women with 28 children between us, most of them in late adolescence. And I realized that when I dry my daughter off in a towel tenderly the way a lover would, I'm teaching her to expect that kind of touch.