Lori Bizzoco, writer and stay-at-home mom, Brooklyn, N. This is a proven technique that helps build sexual rapport and accelerates the chance of a kiss very quickly. But what she appreciates most is that when she comes home from the store, he will always come out to the car to help unload bags because he knows she's got a bad back. That to me is the biggest turn-on of all! Repeat this for a minute or two… you are basically planting the idea in her mind that you want to kiss her. Sharon Gilchrest O'Neill, a couples therapist in Mt. Beverly Solomon, creative director, Lampasas, Texas. And I feel appreciated. He will surprise her by showing up at her workplace with his tow truck and loading her car onto his flatbed. Verbally Non-physical sexual escalation The first key to sexual escalation is verbal, you need to seduce her with your words… then you move onto the physical which will push things over the edge with her. But what she loved most about her partner in a previous relationship was that he was quick to say, "I am sorry," when he was clearly at fault. It's important to cherish these connections, especially when we get caught up in the cycle of our busy daily lives. And, for me, it's a definite turn-on. When you are looking at her, start from the left eye hold for 3 seconds then move to the right eye hold for another 3 seconds then look at her lips for a couple of seconds. Louis, Patricia Klingler, life coach, Bellevue, Wash.