In fact, the more intimacy she feels, the more sexual passion she will be able to express. It was sad to end a relationship with someone that I still had deep love for, but it was necessary. All the married couples stressed that sex is very important in a committed relationship because it maintains a level of intimacy that both people need in order to succeed. There is a deep energetic connection that bonds two people when they make love. When a guy thinks about intimacy, he usually thinks about having sex. Sex helps us sleep more comfortably, and through better sleep, sex creates a stronger immune system. Before sex comes communication and if you don't have that in a relationship, it's doomed. Men tend to focus on sex. It's important, yes, but I think that sex usually dies down once a couple gets married. It's about more than cooking him a good meal and keeping a proper house. Connecting on a Spiritual Level When you have connected on the emotional and sensual level, you will be ready to connect on the spiritual level. When sex is no longer a priority is there an underlying relationship problem? The little things just fall to the wayside. If my boyfriend wants sex, I'll give it to him. One of the byproducts of all that though some might argue it to actually be the cause is that we quit having sex. This sexual disappointment can be the start of a lifetime of unfulfilled sexual connections and expectations, leading to the false assumption that sex is best with no commitment.